Sometimes, even the most vibrant and talented women feel like they’re simply not enough. They quietly convince themselves they have little to contribute to the world.
This self-perception, while not uncommon, couldn’t be further from the truth.
In my experience, these women have a set of unique habits that often go unnoticed. These habits, rather than being a sign of inadequacy, are actually a testament to their strength and resilience.
In this article, I’ll share 7 unique habits of these women, illustrating that they have more to offer than they might think.
These habits could also help you recognize and appreciate your own value, even if your contribution to the world feels ‘quiet’. Because, let’s face it, sometimes, the most profound impacts are the ones that whisper rather than shout.
1) They tend to underestimate their own abilities
These women, who believe they have nothing to offer, often tend to undervalue their own abilities.
They may be incredibly skilled at something, or have a wealth of knowledge in a particular area, but they discount these things as being ‘not that special’ or ‘something anyone could do’.
This habit of underestimating their own abilities, or brushing them off as insignificant, is common amongst women who feel they don’t have much to offer.
But the truth is, these skills and knowledge are valuable and unique to them. They just need to recognize and appreciate their own worth.
What they perceive as ‘nothing’, might actually be ‘everything’ to someone else. And that’s where their true value lies.
2) They are often their own worst critics
A second habit I’ve noticed is that these women are often their own harshest critics.
They tend to scrutinize their own performance or actions more severely than they would anyone else’s.
Take my friend, for instance. She’s an incredibly talented painter, creating beautiful works of art that leave everyone in awe. However, she always dismisses her talent and instead focuses on the minor imperfections in her work.
I remember one particular instance where she was preparing for an art show. She had worked tirelessly on a new piece and everyone who saw it was blown away. Yet, all she could focus on was a tiny brushstroke that she felt was out of place.
But sometimes, what they see as flaws, others see as unique strokes of genius.
3) They often live in the future or the past, not the present
Another common habit I’ve observed is that these women often struggle to live in the present moment. They’re either ruminating about past mistakes or worrying about future challenges.
Mindfulness, the practice of being fully engaged in the current moment, can be particularly challenging for them. They find it difficult to appreciate their worth because they’re not present to recognize their value.
When we become more present and mindful, we start to see our own worth more clearly. We are more aware of our thoughts, feelings, and actions and can better appreciate our unique contribution to the world.
Practicing mindfulness allows us to acknowledge and appreciate our strengths, instead of focusing on our perceived weaknesses or inadequacies.
So if you find yourself stuck in past regrets or future worries, consider exploring mindfulness techniques. You might just find that you have more to offer than you realize.
4) They hesitate to ask for help
A notable habit of these women is their reluctance to ask for help. They often feel that they need to handle everything on their own in order not to burden others.
I’ve been there. Juggling multiple projects at once, feeling overwhelmed, but choosing to push through rather than reach out. There was a fear that asking for help would be seen as a sign of weakness or incompetence.
But what I’ve come to learn is that it’s entirely okay, and often necessary, to seek assistance. It’s not a sign of weakness but a recognition of our human limitations.
This hesitation to ask for help doesn’t mean they have nothing to offer.
Instead, it shows their resilience and determination. But it’s important to remember that seeking help when needed doesn’t diminish our value – it merely acknowledges our shared humanity.
5) They often shun the spotlight
Interestingly, another habit of these women is their tendency to avoid the spotlight. They prefer to work quietly in the background, not seeking recognition or praise for their contributions.
While this may seem counter-intuitive, it’s not necessarily a negative trait. In fact, many great influencers and leaders are those who don’t seek the limelight.
They’re content with impacting the world from behind the scenes, making significant contributions without needing public acknowledgment.
However, this habit can sometimes mask their value, making them feel like they have nothing to offer when, in reality, they’re often the ones holding everything together.
While it’s perfectly fine to avoid the spotlight, it’s also important to remember that their quiet contributions have immense value. They’re the unsung heroes who quietly shape the world in profound ways.
6) They put others before themselves
One habit that stands out is their tendency to prioritize others over themselves. These women often put their own needs and desires on the back burner to accommodate others.
They go above and beyond to help, support, and care for those around them, even if it means sacrificing their own well-being or happiness.
While this selflessness is admirable, it can sometimes lead them to neglect their own needs and desires. They might feel like they have nothing left to offer because they’ve given so much already.
But it’s important to remember that self-care isn’t selfish. By taking care of themselves, they can replenish their energy and continue to contribute in meaningful ways.
Their ability to care for others is a testament to their value, but they should also extend that care to themselves.
7) They are often incredibly resilient
The most striking habit of these women is their incredible resilience. Even when they believe they have nothing to offer, they keep going.
They face challenges head-on, endure hardships, and bounce back from setbacks.
This resilience is a testament to their strength and value. Their ability to keep going, even when they feel inadequate, is what truly sets them apart.
Remember, resilience isn’t about not falling; it’s about getting back up every time you do. And that’s something to be celebrated. Their resilience is their offering to the world, and it’s more valuable than they realize.
In essence, it’s about perception
The way we perceive ourselves often influences our behaviors, actions, and habits. For the women who feel like they have nothing to offer the world, their perception of themselves is often skewed.
They may view their resilience as stubbornness, their selflessness as being a pushover, or their preference to avoid the spotlight as a lack of ambition. But these are simply perspectives.
In truth, these unique habits reflect strength, compassion, and humility – all valuable traits that these women contribute to the world.
So, if you or someone you know feels like they have nothing to offer, remember this: our worth is not determined by how much we’re seen or how loud we are.
Our worth comes from our unique experiences, our resilience in the face of adversities, our capacity to care for others, and our ability to bounce back. And that’s something all of us – especially these quietly influential women – have in abundance.
We all have something to offer the world, even if it’s not always apparent. It’s just a matter of changing our perspective and recognizing our own value. Because in the end, each one of us is enough, just as we are.
