We’ve all met someone who seems to glow from the inside out—an older colleague who still laughs like a teenager or a grandparent who finds genuine delight in learning TikTok dances.
This kind of ageless spark isn’t luck.
It’s the result of small, repeatable mental habits that keep curiosity and resilience alive long after birthday candles accumulate.
Below are the eight I notice most often—both in my own life and in the people who inspire me to stay young at heart.
1. Cultivate curiosity
Wonder is the fuel of youthfulness.
Every time you pause to ask why?, the brain lights up with the same exploratory circuitry that dominated childhood.
I started keeping a “question journal” two years ago.
At the end of each day, I jot down one thing I still don’t understand—why sourdough starters behave like temperamental pets, how migratory birds navigate darkness, why my neighbor’s roses bloom twice.
Most entries never lead to deep research, yet the practice keeps my mental gears well-oiled and open.
Curiosity does something else too: it crowds out cynicism.
When you’re busy wondering, you have less energy for declaring that everything’s already been figured out.
If you haven’t posed a genuine question today, try one before bed.
See how it feels.
2. Practice mindful presence
Youthful spirits live inside the moment instead of rushing past it.
Mindfulness meditation strengthens that muscle.
According to research from the APA, reviewing more than 200 studies, regular mindfulness practice consistently lowers stress and boosts mood—even in healthy adults.
Lower stress correlates with slower biological aging, so each mindful breath is more than relaxation; it’s maintenance for your future self.
If seated meditation sounds intimidating, borrow the technique I use while washing dishes: focus on the water’s temperature, the plate’s texture, the bubbles’ fragility.
A two-minute sensory check-in can flip your nervous system from fight-or-flight to rest-and-restore.
3. Keep a growth mindset
One mental habit shows up in almost every energetic, “young” elder I interview: they believe they can still improve.
Stanford psychologist Carol Dweck calls this the growth mindset, and decades of evidence confirm its link to resilience and learning.
The Stanford Teaching Commons notes that people who see abilities as expandable tackle new challenges more readily and bounce back faster when they stumble.
When a seventy-four-year-old violin student tells me she’s “just getting started,” I see the growth mindset in action.
She’s not naïve; she simply refuses to stamp an expiration date on her potential.
Ask yourself where you’ve labeled a skill “not my thing.”
Could that label be peeled off?
4. Move your body with joy
Children rarely “exercise.”
They run, twirl, climb, and flop because movement is delight.
Re-capturing that instinct matters more than clocking a certain number of steps.
Cardio and strength sessions are wonderful, but the emotional tone you bring to them counts too.
Last winter I traded one rigid workout for thirty minutes of jumping rope to 90s music in my garage.
Sweat still poured, yet the laughter that bubbled up felt medicinal.
Joyful movement floods the brain with endorphins and preserves joint flexibility—both key to feeling spry at any age.
5. Nurture meaningful connections
Loneliness dries up the spirit like a plant deprived of water.
The Harvard Study of Adult Development—the world’s longest research on happiness—found that the quality of our relationships at midlife predicts health outcomes decades later.
That data changed how I invest my calendar.
I now block a non-negotiable two-hour window each Sunday for unhurried conversation with my closest people.
No agenda, no multitasking.
Just presence.
When schedules clash, I send a voice memo instead of a text—because hearing laughter beats reading “lol.”
Your vitality is communal, not solo.
6. Embrace play and creativity
As playwright George Bernard Shaw warned, “We don’t stop playing because we grow old; we grow old because we stop playing.”
Play keeps neural pathways flexible, and it doesn’t require paintbrushes or LEGO sets (though both are welcome).
Here’s how I weave play into routine tasks:
- Cooking: I try a new spice combo every Friday night.
- Emails: I draft the first line as a haiku before switching to normal prose.
- Commuting: I find one billboard tagline I’d rewrite for fun.
These micro-games take seconds but spark novelty, which releases dopamine—the same neurotransmitter teenagers chase.
Pick one mundane activity today and add a dash of silliness.
Notice how quickly your shoulders drop.
7. Simplify and declutter the mental load
Minimalism isn’t about stark white rooms.
It’s the discipline of trimming anything—objects, commitments, digital noise—that clouds intention.
Every quarter my husband and I perform a “calendar cleanse.”
We highlight activities that drain energy without advancing purpose, then choose one to delete.
The effect mirrors decluttering a closet: space appears, and with it, lightness.
Reducing decision fatigue frees cognitive resources for curiosity, learning, and spontaneous fun—the hallmarks of a youthful mindset.
8. Reflect and set micro-intentions each night
Before lights out, I ask two questions:
“What felt most alive today?” and “What tiny thing will I lean into tomorrow?”
The first builds gratitude; the second builds direction.
A goal as small as “stretch for five minutes upon waking” counts.
Micro-intentions prime the subconscious, so morning decisions feel less forced and more fluid—exactly how we felt racing into summer days as kids.
Final thoughts
As baseball legend Satchel Paige famously asked, “How old would you be if you didn’t know how old you are?”
The answer depends on the habits you practice between dawn and dusk.
Try adopting even one of these eight mindsets this week.
Your body may keep aging, but your spirit will stay delightfully out of sync.
